Are you unwittingly killing your confidence?
June 6, 2010 by gfrancis · Leave a Comment
Who would like to do that? But strangely enough we often do things that actually sabotage our confidence in our own abilities. We all want to build up our confidence but do you subconsciously sabotage your efforts?
Do you always try very hard to show your ‘Confidence’ but do not actually have any confidence?
You are not the only one with this problem. many people struggle with this problem for years. Know what happens when you resist something? even a thought, It persists. Now tell me when you want to be confident? What is your primary reason? Do you dislike being not so confident? Do you hate the idea of low confidence?Do you get bad time due to your low confidence
You may have some unconscious blocks that stops you from becoming a confident person. So, what could these blocks be? You might believe you will never be a confident person, but this belief is not based on fact – it is simply based on your way of looking at things.
What are the common blocks that stop you from being confident.
Don’t Deserve to be confident
Hard to believe but many people have this problem. on the outside you may wish to become confident but on the inside you may do not feel like you deserve to be confident. Its the same as thinking you do not deserve to be happy. Until you resolve this block, it will be difficult to reach your goals.
You are afraid to be confident
Sometimes, people fear success as much as failure because of the changes it brings to their lives. It’s the same with confidence. If you become confident and begin to fulfill your goals and ambitions, it would bring a lot of change to your world. A lot of people find change to be a very scary thing.
You secretly think confidence is equal to arrogance
Perhaps you have met people who seemed overly confident – so confident in fact that they came across as arrogant and rather obnoxious. You may worry that you will become so confident that you will forget who you really are.
You think certain people are born with a confidence gene and are ‘lucky’
You fear what others will think of the new, confident you.
A lot of us place great value on what others think of us. Because a lack of confidence is so prevalent in our society, we are often surrounded by other people who are just as unconfident as we are. This creates a sense of bonding, a feeling of belonging. Our friends and family probably reinforce that. Sometimes we have to change a few things in our life in order to become more confident and the ones who love us may not like this idea. Sometimes they may feel threatened and you may worry that you will lose some friends.
You may belive that you are very shy and you cannot be confident
Surprisingly people thing being shy means you should not be confident. In fact if you are shy overcoming your shyness should be a good reason why you want to become confident
